Why, when we spend so much of our day, time and heart space thinking, planning and supporting others, do we not give ourselves the same grace we so lovingly give to others? Why do we even need to do this when there is not enough time in the day to breathe let alone find “me time?” Showing up for ourselves is the furthest thing from selfish. If we want to show up for others in our lives we MUST show up for ourselves. #selflove #empathy #compassion #metime #mom #educator #children #mother #empoweredbeyondmeasure #ideas #strategies #how #to

Self Love: What is self-love?


As you may know, I’ve been working with incredible educators around the province of New Brunswick and beyond on wellness in the workspace of early childhood education (learn more about that here).

This focus has taken me on a wild ride of supporting not only educators and parents with little ones at home but heading on a journey of my own as I sought out to learn more about my own wellness.

Since getting more involved and launching Empowered Beyond Measure (join the Facebook page here), I’ve come to find I am far from alone when it comes to not giving myself enough SELF LOVE (I’m talking physical, emotional and mental space, time and worth) and WOW have I learned a lot in taking this on myself.

I wanted to share that with you, even just a smidgen of it, in this FREE Facebook Group as well as in this post. And, how fitting that it would be during the holiday of LOVE.

This time of year is traditionally marked for sending cards and chocolates to those close to our heart and although this is just perfection, I feel like someone important is being left out.


Why, when we spend so much of our day, time and heart space thinking, planning and supporting others, do we not give ourselves the same grace we so lovingly give to others?

Well, my friends – I have a few things to share with you (and will be shouting from the rooftops until the end of time now that I have gained this clarity) and welcome you to join the conversation, or just sit back and take it all in.

Feel free to welcome others to the group if you think it would serve them well. The more, the merrier.

What is self love? And what is self love most certainly not.

  • Self-love IS NOT selfish. It is not arrogant or egotistical.
  • It IS NOT about putting yourself ABOVE others, at the EXPENSE of others. It’s NOT your way or the highway.
  • It IS NOT comparing yourself to someone else. Anyone else. Ever.
  • It IS about accepting yourself as you are, in the skin you are in and welcoming all sides of that because getting to know yourself (too deep, too soon?) means digging in a little bit to see what the story is.
  • It IS about a willingness to RECEIVE as well as GIVE your time, your heart, your self. Being open to the support, help, and guidance of others isn’t always easy, but it is part of the growth.
  • It IS about taking care of your mind, body, and soul
  • It IS about knowing what your absolute YES is, as well as your absolute NO. Being taught to be a polite girl for a large majority of my life meant my fearing NO, saying it, hearing it, feeling it. But it also led me to feel a lot of uneasiness, give my time to people and places that I didn’t want to, and miss out on things that I would have much preferred to take part in.
  • It IS about showing others what you DESERVE in how you are treated, spoken to, viewed and respected. Do you hear me? Are you still with me? Showing others what you DESERVE by how you first treat yourself.
  • It IS kindness to yourself, on the toughest of days.
  • It IS about knowing, showing and sharing your WORTH. Which by the way has nothing to do with how you look, dress, what you weigh or ate for breakfast, what others have said or thought of you in the past, what YOU have thought of YOU in the past. It’s about knowing you DESERVE proper treatment every day. That includes your inner voice, ya’ll.

It’s been a wild journey of self-discovery for me personally and I feel like there is so much to share.

To read more about the easiest way to implement self love – check out this post!

I’d love to hear your thoughts on what self-love is, isn’t, what it once was and is now to you. Share in the comments below.

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